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Stop Me When I Start Lying: Beating VS. Cheating

My mind was blown ("mind boggled" as Ray J's dumb ass would say) by a conversation I had with a female friend of mine recently. We were having a usual discussion about how Tiger Wood's personal life wasn't my business and the only people he owed an apology to for living foul were his wife, family and close friends. I have a slightly pessimistic opinion on how monogamous people are in relationships where one person spends more than half the year on the road (athletes, traveling salesmen, etc.). Combine that with the fact that I knew nothing about Tiger personally before and I'm not exactly surprised at what has been exposed and the shock value wore off to me long before the media. I told the lady that I would have been more surprised if he was a woman beater, pedophile, cross dresser or some type of criminal or weirdo. She told me that she believes that in marriage, it's easier to get over a guy beating his wife than that man cheating on his wife.......................WHAT????? Alright, I'm a guy, and my mother is the type who would throw boiling water on a man in his sleep if he was stupid enough to lay a hand on her so maybe my view is different than hers. But I still don't understand that logic. In my dealings with women, I often try to think about things as far as "what would I do if this happened to a sister if I had one?" If I had a sister and her husband cheated on her (assuming she's been a good wife), I'm going to be telling her to leave him immediately cuz she doesn't need to leave herself in a situation to be hurt like that. However,it wouldn't surprise me if they got separated for a while, took some time apart to do their own things and eventually they wanted to get back together. I'd tell her that he has to earn that trust back and all, but overall I could let the past be the past and move on. If the husband was beating my sister - whether she's bein a good wife or not - WE GOT PROBLEMS. I'm not a hot head, but I would take a page from Sonny from the Godfather, I'm fuckin this dude's shit up. And I'll tell him "If she ever comes through my door with a black eye again, I'll kill you." Don't think I'm condoning cheating at all, it's a violation of the sanctity of the relationship and I'm in no way denying that. But it's gotten to the point where cheating, on both sides, is so widespread that it's no more shocking than just disappointing. It's estimated that 50% of married people have cheated, and studies show that those aren't the same 50% that are divorced either, there's a significant amount of overlap. No one seems to look at cheaters differently unless they have legal implications or theatric value. BUT BEATING???Look at Ike Turner's reputation more than a quarter century after him and Tina divorced. Everyone forgot that he was a rock & roll pioneer and just remember him as a the guy beating Anna Mae. Hell, look how fast Chris Brown's career has all but disappeared, and we know that Rihanna probably provoked a lot of that cuz she is crazy and violent herself. Didn't stop his name from becoming the new verb for woman beating. "Shut up before I Chris Brown ur ass." This dude had to get on camera practically begging for his fans back. People don't end up doing interviews with Larry King or Barbara Walters over cheating. Hell, Swizz Beatz and Dwyane Wade both left their wives for celebrity women in the past year or two and have been flaunting their newer richer chicks all over the place, no one has called them or their wives for any interviews about their affairs turned new relationships. By definition, Gabrielle Union and Alicia Keys are home wreckers; very, very fine home wreckers, but home wreckers nonetheless. Hasn't seemed to hurt their careers at all. Just like it hasn't hurt several male and female public figures who have been caught cheating. Stop Me When I Start Lying...

Who Says Strippers Don't Have Talent

This is the closest depiction to what that chick did at Onyx (Charlotte's Onyx, not Atlanta's) in the infamous "dancing on the ceiling" incident that I tell people about. This ladies and gentlemen is talent, no other way to say it. That's athleticism, talent, courage, and practice rolled into one and manifested on the big stage; or more accurately, the big pole. Do u have ne idea the level of hamstring, groin and quad control necessary for that "slide and stop" maneuver? Her workout routine is probably legit. I tip my hat to u lady, keep makin jaws drop and dollars fly. Thank u Lil Duval for the post; my face looked much like his did at the end of the video when I saw it live myself.

Do Better: Alcoholic Traits

I drink fairly often, I enjoy drinking. I have a high tolerance; I can function after quite a few drinks. Despite starting as a liquor man, I've even acquired the taste for beer. But despite ppl calling me such, there are certain things that keep me from bein an alcoholic. I've never had problems with getting sick and people having to take care of me; much less making it a habit. I only drink socially, I don't sit there and drink alone. I drink mainly on weekends only. Drinking is not my way of coping with any and every form of stress. And I don't carry stuff like this...











































That's right, a baseball cap bottle opener, a refridgerator magnet bottle opener and a SANDAL bottle opener. Yea, u can be walkin around on the beach, grab a beer from a store and take off your sweaty, smelly, sandy ass toe-thong sandal and use the sole of it to open your drink. What a thought. Or upon walking in your kitchen, people will immediately know that you're a serious drinker becuz u have a bottle opener displayed on the outside of ur fridge door. Or u can even take off ur hat and use it to open ur beer. Shameful. Although I will admit that I learned how to open bottles on sharp counter corners, I believe that spending money deliberately on something normal that has been altered to allow for beer opening is a tell-tell sign of true alcoholism and I'd guess usually happens hand-in-hand with the traits I outlined earlier. So take the advice of an avid drinker, don't be an alchy to the point where it truly affects your life. And even if you do, don't buy things that identify you as an alchy on sight. Do Better...